This life, each stage has things to do and distances that can be calculated.
This stage needs to be clarified: who is worth deep friendship and who is just a acquaintanceship
It's not "not enough networking", but "I spend a lot of time on socializing, but there are few who can really help me.".
Verification Signals (count two or more to be considered):
· Many social activities but no deep relationships
· Frequent social gatherings and fatigue
· Homogeneous circle (all in the same industry)
Social Asset
This stage's social asset is the quality of relationships, not the quantity.
Key distinction:
① Can tell the truth——3-5, determine your emotional health
② Can help each other——5-10, determine your opportunities
③ Just know——many, provide information
Most people spend the most time on ③ and get the least harvest. Moving time from ③ to ①② is the most valuable action in this stage.
Have a few people who can really help
No need for ineffective socializing
Relationships have quality
Definition
Number of callable networking, number of deep relationships, percentage of ineffective socializing
How to calculate
Count how many "can really help" and calculate how much socializing is occupied by social gatherings
Healthy Range
Callable ≥5, Deep ≥3, Ineffective Socializing ≤30%
Spending all time on social gatherings——tiring and ineffective
Only make friends with colleagues——information homogenization
Think "networking = how many people you know"——it's "how many people are willing to help you"
Ignore old friends——old relationships are the most reliable
Parent group as a social event——easily becomes a comparison field
Make a list of "people who can really help" and it usually doesn't exceed 10
Give half of your social time to these 10 people
Meet 2 people from different circles every quarter
Push social gatherings as much as possible, leave time for deep relationships
Keep polite in the parent group, don't participate in comparisons