This life, each stage has things to do and distances that can be calculated.
It's not your problem, it's the situation that's missing
It's not that I'm not sociable, but that there's no natural scenario to get to know people after school.
Verification Signals (count as valid if two or more are met):
· No new friends in the past six months
· Social life is only with colleagues
· Spend weekends alone
Social Asset
This stage's social asset is "non-work scenario relationships".
Why is it important:
① Colleague relationships disappear with resignation
② Interest circle relationships are more enduring
③ Different circles bring different information
Practice is simple: regularly participate in an activity unrelated to work (sports/reading/volunteer/interest class). Repeated appearance is more effective than deliberate socializing.
How many people can talk
Have friends without deliberate socializing
Not lonely
Definition
Number of deep conversations per month · Social circle diversity · Frequency of weekend socializing
How to calculate
How many people have had honest conversations this month; how many times have you gone out on weekends
Healthy Range
Deep conversation ≥4 times/month · Circle ≥2 types · Weekend socializing ≥2 times
Only interact with colleagues —— Disappears with resignation
Take entertainment as socializing —— Tiring and ineffective
Wait for free time to socialize —— Never have free time
Think "few friends are normal" —— Loneliness accumulates
Only online, not offline —— Relationship depth is insufficient
Regularly participate in an activity unrelated to work (once a week)
Actively invite 1 person to dinner per month (not about business)
Maintain 3-5 people who can have honest conversations
Maintain friendly colleague relationships, but don't make them the only source
Go out at least once on weekends (even if alone)