This life, each stage has things to do and distances that can be calculated.
This section is about "how to meet people," not "how to use people."
It's not "I can't socialize," it's "I don't know how to naturally meet people, and socializing feels like performing."
Verification Signals (count as verified if two or more are met):
· Long-term lack of new acquaintances
· Extremely tired after socializing
· Only interacting with a few fixed people
Networking Asset
This stage's networking asset is the first layer of the network:
① Classmates/Coworkers — Natural common scenarios
② Interest Circle — Common topics, easiest to break the ice
③ Weak Ties — Not familiar but known, opportunities often come from here
A sociological finding: Good opportunities often come from "weak ties," not close friends. So there's no need to strive to become friends with everyone, just keep "known and friendly" is enough.
Be able to naturally meet people
Have a few real friends
Don't have to pretend
Definition
Number of new acquaintances per month · Number of deep relationships · Social status after socializing
How to calculate
Count how many new people you met this month; whether socializing is charging or discharging
Healthy Range
Monthly ≥2 new people · ≥3 deep relationships · Not exhausted after socializing
Take socializing as a performance — It will be very tired and you won't make real friends
Only meet people for "usefulness" — You will be recognized
Don't socialize at all — Opportunities and emotions will get worse
Reliance on drinking to entertain — It builds transactions, not relationships
Wait for others to come to you — Adult relationships need to be proactive
Start with interest (clubs/sports/courses), easier than "socializing"
Actively meet 2 new people per month, don't have to be deeply connected
Keep 3-5 friends who can tell the truth
Maintain friendly weak ties (likes/greetings)
Reduce the amount if you feel tired after socializing, don't force yourself