This life, each stage has things to do and distances that can be calculated.
This stage, you can influence but not decide
Not "choose the best school," but "is he nurtured or consumed in that environment."
Verification signals (count as verified if two or more are met):
· The child clearly resists going to school
· Has no friends at school
· You have never communicated with the teacher alone
Definition of environment
The core of this stage's environment is peers and teachers, no longer the home.
There are three things you can do:
① Select environment——The atmosphere of the school is more important than the reputation
② See signals——Is he willing to talk about school things
③ Be a support——When something happens, he thinks of you first, not hide from you
The most critical judgment:Is he brave enough to be himself in that environment.
The child is happy at school
Has a few good friends
Is not bullied
Definition
Desire to go to school · Number of friends · Frequency of communication with teachers
How to calculate
Observe if he mentions school; ask if he has anyone to play with
Healthy range
Willing to go to school · ≥2 friends · Talk to the teacher once a semester
Only look at the school's reputation——Atmosphere is more important than ranking
When your child says he is bullied, say "It's your own fault"——He will never tell you again
Completely not communicate with teachers——Problems are always known at the last moment
Forcefully change schools to solve everything——Changing the environment does not solve the ability problem
Require your child to "fit in"——Some loneliness is normal
Talk to the teacher alone once a semester (ask specific things, not "how is the performance")
Observe if he mentions his classmates' names
If bullied: stand by him first, then discuss the solution
Do not force him to fit in, but have 1-2 real friends
Tell him: "If there is a problem, tell me first, I will not scold you first"