This life, each stage has things to do and distances that can be calculated.
This stage begins to have the right to choose, and should choose
It's not "I don't want to socialize," but "I find that most socializing is consuming, not nourishing."
Verification Signals (count as verified if two or more are met):
· Long-term fatigue after socializing
· A lot of interpersonal relationships with no real meaning
· Actively avoiding all socializing
Social Asset
This stage's social asset is "choice"。
When you are young, you dare not refuse because you are afraid of losing opportunities; after 40, you have capital:
① Refuse invalid socializing without losing anything
② Deep relationships have stabilized
③ Time is more valuable than entertainment
But note: Not socializing at all is also a loss. The healthy approach is "reduce quantity and improve quality," not "zeroing out."
Only associate with people worth it
Have the right to choose
Not consumed
Definition
Proportion of invalid socializing · Number of deep relationships · Socializing after state
How to calculate
Calculate how much socializing is "have to go"
Healthy Range
Invalid socializing ≤20% · Deep ≥3 people · Socializing after not exhausted
Endure for "networking" — Tiring and inefficient
Completely refuse all socializing — Will gradually become closed
Maintain only "useful" relationships — Will be seen through
Competition at classmate gatherings — Consumption greater than gain
Sorry to refuse — More and more tired
Calculate: How much socializing is "have to go"
Reduce invalid socializing by half, give time to deep relationships
Practice a refusal: "I can't go this time, let's make another appointment next time"
Keep 3-5 people who can tell the truth
Don't zero out — Complete closure is more dangerous than excessive socializing