This life, each stage has things to do and distances that can be calculated.
Not grades, but the ability to "learn in."
Not "low grades," but "he hasn't found a method to learn in, and becomes more resistant with more tutoring.".
Verification Signals (more than two are considered):
· Homework takes more than 2 hours
· Enrolled in tutoring classes but grades don't change
· Clearly resistant to learning
Career Asset
The real career asset at this stage is learning ability——not knowledge itself, but "knowing how to learn when encountering something unknown.".
It consists of three parts:
① Habit (fixed time, fixed location)
② Method (how to break down, how to ask, how to verify)
③ Self-awareness (I know where I am not good at)
Grades are the result, but these three are the assets. Tutoring classes can only supplement knowledge, not these three.
He can complete his homework himself
Find a method that he can learn in
Not hate learning
Definition
Homework completion time · Self-directed reading time · Number of active questions asked
How to calculate
Record for a week: how long homework takes, how long self-directed reading takes, how many questions are asked actively
Healthy Range
Homework ≤60 minutes · Self-directed reading ≥20 minutes/day · At least 3 active questions per week
Only focus on grades —— Grades are the result, not ability
Fill time with tutoring —— No time to digest on their own
Accompany homework until late at night —— He will think that learning is for the parents
Say "You just don't try hard enough" —— Attribution is wrong, method issues are treated as attitude issues
Learn everything —— Nothing is learned thoroughly
Fixed time and place to do homework (habits come before methods)
Teach him three steps: first see what you can understand, then see what you can't understand, and finally ask where you are stuck
Limit homework time, stop if you can't finish it——leave time for reflection
Let him teach you once a week (you really understand when you can teach)
Don't compare, just compare with your last time