Every stage of life has things to do and distances that can be calculated.
The most easily overlooked part is the psychology here
It's not that "I don't know what to care about," but "He closed the door, and I don't know what's happening inside, and I'm afraid to ask."
Verification Signals (more than two are considered):
· Depressed or irritable for two consecutive weeks
· Sleep <7 hours or day and night reversal
· Clearly avoiding socializing or sudden drop in grades
The child is willing to tell the truth to me
I know what he is thinking in his heart
Both body and mind are healthy
Definition
Sleep duration · Number of effective communications per week · Self-assessment of emotions (1–10)
How to Measure
Observe the schedule; try to talk once a week (not about grades); let him score himself
Healthy Range
Sleep 8–9 hours · Weekly deep conversations ≥2 times · Self-assessment of emotions ≥7
Say "You just overthink things" — This is the most hurtful thing, which will completely close the communication
Take emotional problems as rebellion — It may really be sick, not an attitude problem
Promise confidentiality and tell others — Once you lose trust, he will not open his mouth again
Only talk about grades — He will think you only care about scores
Let him 'just exercise more' — Exercise is helpful, but cannot replace professional treatment
Don't talk about grades first, talk about things he is interested in (games, music, friends)
Ensure sleep: Insufficient sleep at this stage can directly amplify emotional problems
If he is continuously depressed for two weeks, find the school psychological teacher or professional organization
Acne/height: First look at endocrine, do not buy medicine yourself
Make it clear to him: "You can talk to me about things, I won't scold you first"
These are directions and judgments, not diagnoses. Decisions involving medication, examination, and surgery must be made by doctors.
Seek medical attention immediately if the following conditions occur: persistent chest pain, shortness of breath, sudden severe headache, change in consciousness, severe bleeding, high fever not subsiding for more than 3 days.